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Whats up dude bros.
Im new to the form. So I apologize if this is in the wrong spot. I couldn't find the " friend in need" section... Ive been with my girl for a little less then 5 years now since she was 16 and I was 19, shes basically been living with me for 2 years on and off now. Ive been thinking about marrying her for years now. We're going to Mexico in 2 weeks I bought a $10k ring so I could propose to her there. This girl is my best friend and the best thing thats ever happened to me. But Im getting cold feet. She hasn't done anything wrong. But for one marriage scares the shit out of me. Just from all the failed marriages that has been around me my whole life. And 2nd and big issue is. Im so tired of our almost non existence sex life. Some time less the once a month. This girl does not like having sex at all. Shes always been like this, since our very first time. shes told me many times the only reason she lets me is to keep me around, even though it hurts her. She'd be fine with never having sex. I was her first and only. Me on the other hand have been with many girls before. Girls that were awesome in bed made me feel like a porn star. I have never had these kind of issues that I've been deeling with the last 4 years and its getting worse as time goes on. Everyone says " once they say I do they don't do that anymore" if thats the case with normal girls, I'll be cut off for life with her. Is that just life?? I know relationships aren't good based on just sex like my past one always have been. Which is one reason I went for this girl in the first place. she was the good girl that I could trust and not have to worry about her sleeping around on me, like the girls from my past. Is that just the cold truth about life and just embrace that, thats just the married life? And be lucky I have a great girl and I can trust and just buy a life time supply of lotion and fantasize about the hot nussies that like to fuck my brains out every day. Instead of once a month or so lay there and tell me to hurry up and get it over with.... Is any body else have these kind of issues? And options for her, Medical wise? Or anything. Am I over reacting?

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maybe its you

A: How old are you both now?

B: If it hurts her, even in missionary, she should consider seeing a doctor. Unless, you saying you are fucking huge, then you need to be more gentle.

C: It's called Foreplay. Are you using it on her?

Stick it in her pooper and see if that hurts more or less?

There has to be compromise. As uncomfortable of a situation as it may be for her she has to talk to a doctor about this. You've put up with it for years and stuck around so it's not asking a whole lot for her to make an appointment.

As for the first part I say if you get the sex part fixed and she truly is your best friend than do it. Finding one you can really say is your best friend is rare. Take it from a guy that's always had cold feet and is now 36 and still dating. The older you get the less chance of finding women that aren't bat shit crazy.

beckster aka Tatertits Wrote:A: How old are you both now?

B: If it hurts her, even in missionary, she should consider seeing a doctor. Unless, you saying you are fucking huge, then you need to be more gentle.

C: It's called Foreplay. Are you using it on her?

A. Im 24 and she is 21.
B. Thats about the only position shell let me in cause but yes it still doesn't feel good. And id say im a little above average, im no 12" king kong.
C. It doesn't matter how much foreplay or lube we use.

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Joe Wrote:There has to be compromise. As uncomfortable of a situation as it may be for her she has to talk to a doctor about this. You've put up with it for years and stuck around so it's not asking a whole lot for her to make an appointment.

As for the first part I say if you get the sex part fixed and she truly is your best friend than do it. Finding one you can really say is your best friend is rare. Take it from a guy that's always had cold feet and is now 36 and still dating. The older you get the less chance of finding women that aren't bat shit crazy.

Thanks Joe that helps alot.

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Jesus Christ....help the guy out you buffoons. FFS

Pay attention to your feet broseph. You should RUN, not walk away from this mess. Otherwise you'll be doing it the hard way (and probably with a kid thrown in just to fuck your life over more) in less than 5 years.

It's not a race dude....you have plenty of time. Marriage NEVER makes the problems go away...it just amplifies them. Don't be a pilgrim and settle. Ever.

That is why I asked for their ages. No sense rushing into marriage while they are still so young and have issues.

I am not going to tell him to leave her, when the guy only has the one issue, which may be fixable. If she's truly a keeper, he should support her and work with her after she gets a medical evaluation to see what's going on down there. It's kind of shallow to run from a girl of what may be medical problems.

It might have hurt the first time, but it's not supposed to hurt every time.

Alright, at 24 I'd say wait. I was engaged at 24 to a 19 or 20 year old and was absolutely in love with the girl. We broke up like a year later and it was a damn good thing. By the time I turned 30 I was no where near the same person I was at 24. There was no way in hell her and I would have ever made it.

I have to say the whole pain during sex thing baffles me. I can't imagine that not destroying the relationship. I was with a girl for almost a year that never had an orgasm if her life. That shit blew my mind. I mean if it were me I'd wind up sticking my ween in just about anything I could find until I knew what everyone else was talking about. She didn't even try to do it on her own. I always felt like she was having sex only for me and eventually I just gave up. Shortly after that I had to dump her. She was an awesome girl and would have made a great wife, but if she wasn't going to put the time in to fix the sex part than why should I live like that forever?

Joe Wrote:I have to say the whole pain during sex thing baffles me. I can't imagine that not destroying the relationship. I was with a girl for almost a year that never had an orgasm if her life. That shit blew my mind. I mean if it were me I'd wind up sticking my ween in just about anything I could find until I knew what everyone else was talking about. She didn't even try to do it on her own. I always felt like she was having sex only for me and eventually I just gave up. Shortly after that I had to dump her. She was an awesome girl and would have made a great wife, but if she wasn't going to put the time in to fix the sex part than why should I live like that forever?

Im having deja vu here.

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Hondo Wrote:Jesus Christ....help the guy out you buffoons. FFS

we do that here now? fuck

Derick Wrote:

Hondo Wrote:Jesus Christ....help the guy out you buffoons. FFS

we do that here now? fuck

Oh yeah. We're a one stop shop.

Hey, does she use toys? I am dead serious on that. Does she rub it or is she afraid to do that stuff? You were her first and she needs to explore her situation more.... "Alone time" helps with that. Now, if she's afraid of that stuff, the "pain" could be in her head.

I had a pain for a short time frame, turned out to be cysts. They cleared up and went away. But I cannot emphasize enough that she needs to see a doctor.